Most people think that sex appeal is all gloss, muscles and plastic surgeons. Well I'm here to tell you that you can get sizzling, attract your perfect lover - with these 7 simple steps. And not a gym in site!

1. Personality

In case you're not blessed with rock-hard pecks or an ample derriere, a great personality will win you several adoring fans. Ask most men or women and they'll tell you that confidence, intelligence and self-respect go a long long way. Attractive people exude an aura of positivity and grace. They do not beat themselves up, or speak harshly to themselves. They are very comfortable in their own skin, love to grow and try new things, and more importantly are interested in other people and what makes them tick. If you want more sex appeal then it's time to like you! Get to know yourself, your interest, likes and dislikes, explore your passions, and stretch that intellect.

2. Dress Appeal

If you leave your home dressed in sweat gear (yes you know what I mean big baggy sports tops), poorly fitting clothes and your fashion sense needs a major re-haul then sex appeal will be your worst enemy! Yes clothes do really make the man and the woman, but they do not have to be expensive. What matters most is the style, fit and color. Always choose clothes that fit well on your body and that enhance your best traits - whether it's your waist, bum, chest, legs. Survey the shops and discover some styles and colors that appeal to you. Try on the clothes, and discover what looks good on you. Keep in mind that your frame, height, age and skin tone will affect what looks good and what doesn't. If you are in doubt drag a friend along or pounce on a unsuspecting sales assistant.

3. Look Younger.

Ok easier said that done! Here's my cheats guide:

* exfoliate your skin once a week

* use a great hydrating moisturizer. Fresh glowing dewy skin is what you are after

* Choose hair styles that are soft and flowing and flatter your face i.e. ditch stiff rigid hair with severe hair parts - very aging!

* Get 'wide eyed' : The large soft and wide eyes of children are associated with youth. Women widen those eyes with make up (but if you are over 50 avoid heavy dark eye makeup), get some light cheek blush, and have your eyebrows shaped

4. Body Posture 

Look fitter, younger and more confident in minutes by adopting a great posture
Stand up straight, with your shoulders down and resting softly. Breathe deeply, suck your tummy in a bit and flash a big million dollar smile. When we're not feeling so hot and smoldering, we adopt a less confident demeanor i.e. our shoulder fold in and drop forward, we use are arms as barriers, and we tend to cross our legs. Thus all adding up to a "Leave me alone ! " stance.

5. Compliment them

This is probably an easy one. But if you want to impress your beloved, then take the time to pay them a compliment or two. Don't force it or fake it , or over do it! Just make sure that your comments are genuine

6. Energize Yourself - Think Duracell Bunny 

Energy is within all of us, and it's that spark that we can sense in each other. Do things that raise your energy levels and you will be like honey to a bee. If you're stressed then hang out in a park or take a yoga class to re-charge those batteries. If you're not stressed enough, then get yourself into a gym, go for a walk, or jump up and down to your favourite music

7. Be an Expert

Do you have a skill?  Every one is impressed with an 'expert'. Have a passion, skill or indulgence that you enjoy and are more skilled at than the average Joe.

* If it's a sensual indulgence that you'd like to show off - learn sensual massage

* Do you prefer the more cerebral type? than take an evening class in philosophy

* Do you like the arty types take up an artistic pleasure and squeeze every bit of kudos out it!

* If it's the spiritual type you yearn to bond with, learn meditation or discover tantric sensuality

Sex appeal is not an over night event, but simple changes in your life will make all the difference to going from drab to delicious!